Sup Fella's,
Alright I'm keeping this one super short and simple.
The title speaks for itself, You haven't had sex with her until you've had sex with her!
What the hell does that mean?
I'll start by telling a story of a guy whom I was coaching yesterday.
This gentelman was telling me about a situation recently where he met a girl off Plenty Of Fish, and things were magical. They were texting poems back to each other, met up on 2 amazing dates, and seemed like they were in love... all in the span of a couple weeks. They planned to meet up a third time... when suddenly yet slowly the girl started to show less attention and seemed less interested. He had no idea what happened. All this resulted in a breakdown when finally he sent a text and got no reponse(normally he would atleast a response back that second). The brief 'relationship' (not even exclusive) was over. He had no idea what happened and thought this really was the one...
Here's what happened. somewhere around the 2 week mark they were planning to get together for the third time and really hit it off (wink wink)... they talked dirty to each other and both seemed very eager. Given this was great news, he started to drop his guard. He stopped being on his toes. He laid back and put his feet on the table and said 'fuck it, i'm done, I got her, I'm awesome, we're going to hook up and then she's going to MY GIRL!"... Ofcourse, not conciously, but he said that. But really, he thought all was good in the hood. And that turned out to be the beggining of the end.... that's what messed everything up.
Why did that mess everything up you say? He dropped his guard. And when you do that, you get knocked out like in fight. He stopped being the mysterious interesting and attractive guy he was in the beggining. And just you guys know, it's not about what you say, it's about your VIBE and who your BEING. Women can feel your energy. You don't have to say it. So when you drop your guard, they can feel that energy. That energy is different then the mysterious, attractive and cool guy who he began being in the beggining. Even if you say the EXACT SAME WORDS, the energy is still different and THAT'S WHAT COUNTS, THE ENERGY. Therefore, she started becoming less and less interested to the point where the stopped responding to him. Sad story, but it happens all the time.
Here's what he SHOULD have done. Kept being cool, mysterious and attractive. Whatever was working was working. He shouldn't have changed it.
Understand that until you've had sex with a woman, you haven't had sex with her, no matter what she says. This is the most important part of this post. Before having sex with a woman, it's like you've got a greencard. Your not a citizen yet. And as we all know, citizens get much more perks then non-citizens, obviously. Same applies with women. After he had sex with her, then he could of started to lay back a little and some what put his feet up while still being atleast a bit mysterious and cool. You never want to stop that, but after sex, things are different. She's committed to you in a way. Even in one night stands. One night stands can become relationships too...
And the other thing is. Women are wishy-washy. Until it's happend, it HASN'T happened. So don't turn into this nice, needy guy just because she 'promised' sex. After sex is when relationships should happen anyways.
Moral of this story? Keep your guard up and keep doing what works... atleas until you guys hook up. Then you can let you guard down a little... and be as cute and fluffy as you want. I'm not condoning being FAKE... I'm just saying keep it interesting/attractive until sex has happened. Because until then, your in a different place with a woman. I don't care what she says. This is how it works.
DO NOT CHANGE YOUR GAME, KEEP DOING WHAT WORKS UNTIL YOU'VE GOTTEN THE RESULT.
And if he would of done that, he would of not only had sex with this girl, but they would of been in a relationship and he would of experienced all the love and good emotions he was looking for with her.
Good luck guys
-Reza
